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How to strengthen your loving relationship

How to strengthen your loving relationship

Everyone’s relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. But there are some things that good relationships have in common. Knowing the basic principles of healthy relationships helps keep them meaningful, fulfilling and exciting in both happy times and sad times.

What makes a healthy love relationship?

  • Staying involved with each other. Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without truly relating to each other and working together. While it may seem stable on the surface, lack of involvement and communication increases distance. When you need to talk about something important, the connection and understanding may no longer be there.
  • Getting through conflict. Some couples talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and passionately disagree. The key in a strong relationship, though, is not to be fearful of conflict. You need to be safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation or insisting on being right.
  • Keeping outside relationships and interests alive. No one person can meet all of our needs, and expecting too much from someone can put a lot of unhealthy pressure on a relationship. Having friends and outside interests not only strengthens your social network, but brings new insights and stimulation to the relationship, too.
  • Communicating. Honest, direct communication is a key part of any relationship. When both people feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears, and desires, trust and bonds are strengthened. Nonverbal cues—body language like eye contact, leaning forward or away, or touching someone’s arm—are critical to communication.

27 Things You Need To Know About Courtship

Courting is not the same as dating. The purpose, value, or meaning of courting is often misunderstood in today’s society. Courting is step two on the road to marriage (with step one being dating).

 

23 Things You Need To Know About Dating

Contemporary courtship is when couples decide to move into a deeper friendship and relationship, with marriage being the end goal. When courting is present, two people have agreed together as one to intentionally and deliberately say, “we are courting to get married.”

They have moved past simply getting to know each other without sex, physical touch, or expectation and to a place of deeper purpose and exploration.                                                                       

24 Things You Need to Know About Courtship

You can enter dating with the goal of marriage, but marriage should not be your initial focus; getting to know people should be your focus. Dating and courting in healthy ways will eliminate 85% of our pain, drama, or problems in dealing with men or women. The goal of dating is to discover and share information before entering into a committed, devoted, and long-term relationship. What people typically do is hang out, have sex, start a relationship and then try to get to know someone. When courtship is the goal, your main intent is to get married.

Here are 27 things you need to know about courtship:

  1. Courtship is not about playing, doubt, or uncertainty. In this stage, you are about getting married. Only enter courtship when you are ready to marry.
  2. A courtship doesn’t have to develop into marriage because a couple can decide they are not for each other and simply remain friends, which is perfectly OK.
  3. In courtship, you are both praying together and seeking God to lead the relationship in the right direction.
  4. Courtship will not happen many times in your life, assuming you are approaching relationships from a healthy perspective. Remember, courtship is where you are exploring a deeper relationship with marriage being the goal. So, you will not be doing this often if you are approaching the dating stage with healthy boundaries. 
  5. Dating is a temporary place and should be a safe place for getting to know someone. Courting is for a loving and secure relationship.
  6. Courtship is not for the spiritually and emotionally immature.
  7. Sex is not for courtship. Sex should be a gift of marriage.
  8. Courtship is for positive intentions.
  9. Courtship is done with the goal of having a future spouse.
  10. You should not enter into a courtship until you can be happy alone and not attempting to heal emotional wounds through a relationship.
  11. Courtship is a selfless relationship. If you are a selfish person, you should not even have a serious relationship until you are mature enough to share life with someone without seeking to gain something for yourself.
  12. Selfishness should not drive a marriage, nor should it be the driver of your courtship. (Philippians 2:3)
  13. For the men who are reading this, your focus should be on becoming an Ephesians 5 man. (Ephesians 5:25)
  14. You should treat the man or woman you are in a courtship with as your brother or sister. (1 Timothy 5:1-2)
  15. If you can’t see yourself marrying the person you are dating, delay the courtship. Only enter into courtship with someone you would consider marrying.
  16. Courtship is when you should meet and spend time with each other’s family.
  17. Courtship requires the couple to be honest and transparent so both can make a choice about life together.
  18. A successful courtship requires love, prayer, patience, and oneness.
  19. You should avoid hiding your feelings during courtship.
  20. The habits you form during your courtship will bleed over into your marriage.
  21. A healthy courtship should bring the best out of you.
  22. A healthy courtship has strong communication.
  23. Courtship is where you can become best friends. We all know the best relationships or marriages happen when couples are best friends.
  24. Pray for discernment concerning your courtship and the potential for marriage.
  25. When in courtship take time to discern God’s will. No rushing…..
  26. Courtship will help a couple determine if they should get married.
  27. Only enter courtship with someone you would consider marrying.

27 Things You Need To Know About Courtship

 
 
 

Courting is not the same as dating. The purpose, value, or meaning of courting is often misunderstood in today’s society. Courting is step two on the road to marriage (with step one being dating). 23 Things You Need To Know About Dating
Contemporary courtship is when couples decide to move into a deeper friendship and relationship, with marriage being the end goal. When courting is present, two people have agreed together as one to intentionally and deliberately say, “we are courting to get married.” They have moved past simply getting to know each other without sex, physical touch, or expectation and to a place of deeper purpose and exploration.                                                                        24 Things You Need to Know About Courtship
You can enter dating with the goal of marriage, but marriage should not be your initial focus; getting to know people should be your focus. Dating and courting in healthy ways will eliminate 85% of our pain, drama, or problems in dealing with men or women. The goal of dating is to discover and share information before entering into a committed, devoted, and long-term relationship. What people typically do is hang out, have sex, start a relationship and then try to get to know someone.
When courtship is the goal, your main intent is to get married.

Here are 27 things you need to know about courtship:
1. Courtship is not about playing, doubt, or uncertainty. In this stage, you are about getting married. Only enter courtship when you are ready to marry.

2. A courtship doesn’t have to develop into marriage because a couple can decide they are not for each other and simply remain friends, which is perfectly OK.

3. In courtship, you are both praying together and seeking God to lead the relationship in the right direction.

4. Courtship will not happen many times in your life, assuming you are approaching relationships from a healthy perspective. Remember, courtship is where you are exploring a deeper relationship with marriage being the goal. So, you will not be doing this often if you are approaching the dating stage with healthy boundaries. 23 Things You Need To Know About Dating

5. Dating is a temporary place and should be a safe place for getting to know someone. Courting is for a loving and secure relationship.

6. Courtship is not for the spiritually and emotionally immature.

7. Sex is not for courtship. Sex should be a gift of marriage.

8. Courtship is for positive intentions.

9. Courtship is done with the goal of having a future spouse.

10. You should not enter into a courtship until you can be happy alone and not attempting to heal emotional wounds through a relationship.

11. Courtship is a selfless relationship. If you are a selfish person, you should not even have a serious relationship until you are mature enough to share life with someone without seeking to gain something for yourself.

12. Selfishness should not drive a marriage, nor should it be the driver of your courtship. (Philippians 2:3)

13. For the men who are reading this, your focus should be on becoming an Ephesians 5 man. (Ephesians 5:25)

14. You should treat the man or woman you are in a courtship with as your brother or sister. (1 Timothy 5:1-2)

15. If you can’t see yourself marrying the person you are dating, delay the courtship. Only enter into courtship with someone you would consider marrying.

16. Courtship is when you should meet and spend time with each other’s family.

17. Courtship requires the couple to be honest and transparent so both can make a choice about life together.

18. A successful courtship requires love, prayer, patience, and oneness.

19. You should avoid hiding your feelings during courtship.

20. The habits you form during your courtship will bleed over into your marriage.

21. A healthy courtship should bring the best out of you.

22. A healthy courtship has strong communication.

23. Courtship is where you can become best friends. We all know the best relationships or marriages happen when couples are best friends.

24. Pray for discernment concerning your courtship and the potential for marriage.

25. When in courtship take time to discern God’s will. No rushing…..

26. Courtship will help a couple determine if they should get married.

27.  Only enter courtship with someone you would consider marrying.

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